I have gotten asked a few times in the last couple weeks is how I do it all… whatever ‘”it all” is.
For this post, I will assume “it all” means:
- Work a full time job (and commute!)
- Keep up on house chores (cleaning, laundry, etc)
- Cook (hah)
- Be a good wife
- Be a good pet mom (being a “real” mom is a whole other story… not sure how you all do it!)
- Have a social life
I sat back and thought about this for a little bit, trying to figure out how to answer that question, but my answer is pretty simple: I don’t.
While I wish I could say I have the cleanest house, I cook amazing meals, and my dogs get walked and brushed on a daily basis, that would be a big fat lie.
I don’t try to be the best at all those things because I know that isn’t realistic. There isn’t enough time in the day and I don’t have enough energy. But just because I know it isn’t possible to do “it all” doesn’t mean I don’t try to do the best that I can at the things important to me by doing a few things.
I wake up really early.
I am not a morning person, but I make myself be one. I see the number 4 at the front of the clock when I wake up during the week more days than I don’t. It has gotten easier, but it can be rough. I just know I won’t get my run done after sitting in an hour of traffic on my way home. I don’t even think about it anymore, I just get up, and get my run done.
It does help that nothing feels better than a morning run.
I try to be efficient.
A common phrase you will hear out of my mouth during the week is “packing, unpacking, packing, unpacking” sung to a little tune of course.
I am very lucky that I can get ready at work after a run, and typically do at least 4 days a week. This does mean that I have to pack my clothes for the next morning’s run as well as clothes for work and everything I might need to get ready there and hope that I don’t forget anything. I have gotten very efficient at this process and it really works out great, but there are definitely those mornings I miss eating my breakfast at home with a cup of coffee watching the news. It’s worth it to get my run in and to make it to work on time.
I try to make the most of my runs.
I am very lucky that so many of my friends are runners and that Chris runs as well. I am able to socialize, catch up on the week, and spend quality time with both my friends and husband while running. This is definitely a great perk.
I try to take Kylie and Emma on short runs with me when I run from home, but those aren’t happening that often lately. I am really going to try to work on this more, because one area I definitely feel a lot of guilt is that I don’t spend enough time with them.
They are definitely good helpers when I am in rest/recover mode though!
I have help.
I am lucky that Chris is helpful and helps out with house chores when need be. I am also not ashamed to admit I have a housecleaner who saves me so much time and is worth every penny.
I say no.
One of the biggest things I have had to learn is to say no to things. While I would love to be everywhere, go to every social event, be involved with every running group in the Bay Area, run in every race, be at every group dinner, and go to every weekend getaway, I just can’t.
With my intense weekends of running right now, I know it’s not realistic to commit to too much else while my sanity, not being a zombie and simply staying healthy. All of those things are more important to me right now than saying yes to everything. I also know that it’s not forever and in a few months, I will have more free time again to say yes to things.
I prioritize and plan.
My running is a priority on the weekends right now and I have definitely planned to make it that way. In addition to running, I plan for resting and recovery, especially in between long runs.
I also try to make sure I have a day at home with Chris and the pups. I try to make sure I have a few hours where I can do laundry and go to the grocery store. I try to make sure that I blog when Chris is studying so I am not taking away time from us. I try to make sure I have time to recover from my long runs so I don’t get injured, burned out or sick. The key word in all those sentences being try and prioritizing what is most important for that day.
I accept it.
I think accepting that I can’t do everything, that nothing will ever be perfect, that my house might be a mess for a few days, while making the most of each situation and day is the most important thing to me.
I do have things I want to work on being better at, but I also try and not set myself up for failure by putting too many expectations on myself. If I am constantly letting myself down, then I know that will flow into everything else I do. I just try to be the best I can be at what I need to do that day, in that moment, and am happy with that.
How do you balance everything going on in your life? Do you try to do “it all”? I would love to hear tips on how you fit everything in… there is always room for improvement.